PCS & School advice for Marine JarheadinUSMC

I've been in the Marine Corps for 7 yrs now and I'm doing my first PCS move to a Recruiting station in Tyler, Texas. To be honest I've never been more lost or confused and nervous all at the same time. I dont know the difference between the moves. I dont even know the steps I should take in order to get it done properly. I graduate Recruiters school on Dec 15th and have to report to my station on Jan 15th. I'm trying to not move between Christmas and New Years. Also, my 5 yr old starts school up again on Jan 2nd. I can't move into the home I'm renting until Jan 1st. I know this is a lot of info but if anyone can help me, I would really appreciate it. Thanks


JarheadinUSMC,

Thanks so much for reaching out to us with your question. 

PCS can definitely be overwhelming but you're not alone and there is a lot of information out there to get you organized and ready for your move.

First: The differences in the moves.
  1. TMO move. This move requires little effort on your part. To set this move up, you'll have to contact your TMO office and request the date you'd like to move. They'll organize a packing team to come to your house, pack up your entire household (minus a few items such as, opened seasonings, plants, opened detergents, cleaning liquids...) They'll move your household goods to your new location and unpack them for you, they'll even help set up your furniture for you, if need be. In my opinion, most military families prefer this option to PCS because it helps eliminate a lot of the stress that comes with moving every 3 to 4 years.
  2. DITY move. This move requires a lot more effort on your part but this move will also provide you with the option to bank more money for your PCS. You'll have to pack up, move, unpack and set up your household by yourself. However, the military will cover the cost of your move depending on your rank and weight limits provided to you by your TMO office. You get to bank more money because people find creative and cheaper ways to move their furniture and car(s) then keep the left over money you'll get from moving. A lot of people use this option when moving across the country. Of course if you're moving out of the US or to Hawaii, this option would not be available to you.
My advice to you would be to start the paperwork process as soon as possible. Contact your CO about where your TMO office is and what offices are available to you for PCSing. 

Feel free to check our past posts regarding PCS:
There's a great deal of helpful info and tips from these posts.

You can also go to  http://www.militaryhomefront.dod.mil/, scroll down to the bottom left side of the page to the Military Installations tab, type in your base info. There should be a complete listing of all the offices from your base as well as the offices available at the base you'll be going to so you can start the housing and moving process from now.

If you're planning on going on the list for housing at the new base, you can use your orders to be placed on the waiting list from now so you'll have a better option to get into housing by the time you check in at your new base. 

As far as transitioning for your child. Most bases and schools go above and beyond making sure the transition from schools and housing is as smooth as possible. The base you're currently stationed at should have a school liaison that you can set up a meeting with to discuss the school options available to you and your child at the next base. You should be able to get info and paperwork started on getting your child registered ahead of time. 

I hope we were able to answer your question. If you have any further questions, please feel free to contact us. We appreciate your support. Thank you so much for your dedication and sacrifice to this country.
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Update for "Ask the Milies"

Hello everyone~

We hope you all had a lovely Thanksgiving. We just wanted to inform you all that, unless it's an emergency, "Ask the Milies" will be taking a temporary break during the Holidays.

Jacqueline and I truly enjoy providing information for everyone but our focus at this time, needs to be geared towards our families. We know that you all understand the many challenges that comes with being a military family so we appreciate your patience and understanding. We'll be sure to keep you all posted on when we'll be back.

If you have an emergency question, please do not hesitate to ask and we'll be more than happy to provide you with a response.

Happy Holidays!

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New Army wife Rynna needs some advice on how to be a military spouse

My husband is enlisting for the first time into the army. We've been married for three years and have never been apart for a single bit of it. I'm 22, he's 23. We're approaching this very suddenly, and very fast. I'm proud of him, truly! But... I'm afraid. I plan to move with him when he gets stationed after his basic and AIT. We have no idea where he'll end up yet so I can't plan ahead and speak to anyone. Until he passes his physical and ASVAB this Monday I'm hesitant to talk to a lot of people asking for emotional help before it's even signed!

Can you tell me some things of what to expect/prepare for as a newbie to the military scene? Are there things I can do to get ready for the inevitable move, and the mounds of paperwork I've been hearing about? I lack the traditional support system, as my own family is deceased and has been for many years. That's actually half the cause of a pre-existing anxiety condition, which this isn't helping!

Really, any advice is appreciated.


Jacqueline's Response:


Congrats on becoming an Army wife! We are thrilled to have you in our sisterhood. I am sorry you don't have a traditional support system. That's not totally uncommon these days but I can see how that can increase anxiety. I hope we are able to support you and help you in any way you need!

I think that wives in your situation usually have the advantage in that you get to see the process from day 1. I knew my husband and we were great friends when he enlisted but we were teenagers and didn't get married or start dating until after he graduated from basic. So I have never experience these "ground floor issues" that you will be coming across. There will always be crazy paper work thrown your way but after a while you just get used to it. Its nothing too scary. As a new Army wife who will be separated from her husband for the first time ever I do have a huge recommendation for you. Try out the Army Family Team Building classes. These classes can be done online or in person on Army posts. Its a great thing to do in the beginning when you have free time because it introduces you to military life, the lingo, protocol...basically a survival over view so when things come up in the future you have an idea of where to turn.

Its hard to really prepare for everything that military life will throw at you. But since you all are at the beginning of your journey there are some things you can be doing so you feel ready for the next step. After your husband leaves for basic try to down size some of your possessions if you plan to live in post housing or an apartment. This is good to do no matter what though because even if you buy a decent size house near your first duty station just the move can be a pain! Get organized while you can so when he graduates and is there to help you guys can have some fun too. Also, make the most of your time at home. It could be a while before you know your next duty station so spend these months going to your favorite local attractions and hanging out with the friends you will miss when you do move, wherever that will be. Then when he does call and tell you your exciting future home will be Fort ________ you can start researching all the local places you want to explore with your husband when he gets time off.

Since I didn't get to see my husband through the basic training stage I never new this but apparently many units have photo groups on flikr so you can stay updated on what's going on. You should also get newsletters and emails to keep you in the loop so you don't have to go at this alone :) Your new duty station will also have a Family Readiness Group where you can meet and hang out with wives from the same unit. Just take things a step at a time and enjoy it! This lifestyle can be an adjustment but its completely worth it and will bring you much joy and growth, and even more closeness as a couple as you support each other.

Let us know if you have any other questions we can help you with!

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